My angel boy is now 5 months old

I must say that he is very cute and adorable – his smile takes all my worries and troubles and tiredness away in a jiffy. He is such a darling and he loves his sister abundantly – her voice makes him move and tries to catch sight of her. He just loves her and I hope this love continues for ever.

My Advice to mum-to-be and mothers

Advice to mum-to-be and mothers – if you have a second baby – my suggestion is to treat the older one with more love and care and importance. The small one is too small to understand and miss you and at its own time the older child will accept the little one lovingly without any hassle of not being loved.

3 months maternity leave

How 3 months just flew I don’t understand. Even though the leave was for my boy – I spent most of me time with my darling. I didn’t want her to feel that mama does not love her anymore or more attention is being given to my boy. I didn’t want her to anytime feel low and insecure so I gave her all the attention she required in those three months. In fact you wont believe my friends kept telling me that what I am doing is not right you hardly spend time with your son – but I had an explanation to give them by saying she needs it most now. I explained that kiele that he is your brother and mama and dada loves both of you dearly. She understood and taken things in a cool manner. She loves her lil brother lots and lots – I m sure its only because I made her feel that both of you are important.

Went on For a Week

The same thing went on and on – she would tell me mama you may leave I will go alone and then her tears would flow. This episode went on at least for a week and I would be patiently waiting at the parents waiting room for an hour or so.

I could spend hours at the parents waiting room is only because

I was on maternity leave I had just delivered my baby boy on May 19, 2008 and her school began on June 09, 2008. I could do this for complete three months is only because I was on leave – thanks to my baby boy. I wanted to be by her side at this crucial time of her start of school days. My main goal was that she should love going to school so I would then go to drop her and sit at the waiting room. I would leave my few days old baby boy in my mother’s care and leave for school early. I thought he is small so he will not be really missing me but my daughter yes.. she need me mosst at this time.

Kiele’s 2nd day in school

At home itself I prepared her – by saying that you will be making new friends. You will enjoy yourself sitting on all the rides. The teacher is excellent and so on and so forth and last of it I told her that if you cry then mama also will cry – do you want your mama to cry – I took her to school the second day. You guys wont believe what I experienced and what all mothers/parents would want to experience. My darling daughter at the gate itself told me mama you now go home – baby will go to the class alone – you may leave without a tear in her eye but from within she was choked while saying these words and I knew she would burst out crying immediately after she sees me gone. What I thought came true. I said good bye to her and went behind her slowly to check on her. She was sitting and crying in the class but I pretending as though I didn’t see her crying when she came out of the class. At home everybody asked her baby did you cry in school she was like no. this was all done only because she didn’t want to see tears in my eyes. I was so deeply touched you guys wont imagine how I felt like crying after seeing this sweet kind of behaviour.

Kiele is now 3 years old

Am back after very long and new things have happened since I last wrote.

My baby doll is now 3 years old. She has started her schooling too. Her first day in school was a terrible sight for me. I cannot get over it till now and don’t think will ever. Not only was she in tears but me too. She started crying and I just could not control myself from crying. Even though it was just for a matter of an hour that she would be in school but yet. I kept telling myself that enough I need to be brave and give her the courage if she sees me crying then what will she be going through. I tried controlling my tears. With great difficulty I bid good bye to her and I knew for sure she would not stop but could not help it had to leave her. For a second in fact I thought I would just take a back home but again that’s not right on my part. How long will this carry on she had to go to school someday if not this year then the next year.

Reasons for Baby's Demand

After smally's (brother's babyboy) entry we were like now we should be more careful with Kiele coz she should not feel insecure etc.. etc.. knowing how children are when there is a new entrant in the house. I kept all of them informed in the house that they should give equal attention to her and not to mention all the time that now she has grown big and we need to take care or look after the smaller one..hence behave urself etc.. etc..
I know of a friend of mine who has just delivered a baby girl and her first baby is around 4 years old. So long she was alone – she was a very obedient and well mannered child. The moment there was a new entrant her attitude, behavior everything changed this was told by my friend to me. When the massage lady would massage the baby she too wanted to be massaged. She would not listen when told something coz she wanted a mom and dad to keep repeating the statement “ coz she wanted attention. With my friend's experience I was prepared for Kiele behavior also to change.The same thing happened when she demanded to be tied at night like smally. So these changes take place in the family but one must be able to manage and give time for both and not make the elder child feel left alone or else she will develop a feeling of insecurity and become stubborn and feel that nobody loves them anymore.. hence this is a message to all moms.